I’m sure all of us in our lifetime as a child were taught table manners. Sound familiar? Well, how about treating people with respect? I came to pick up my best friend at her house in the evening to head out to a nice, swanky sushi and bar restaurant. Since it was a Friday evening, there were packs of cars on the road. When we arrived at the plaza where the restaurant was located at we noticed the parking lots were pretty much full. I circled around the parking area that was closest to the restaurant, but knew finding one would be impossible. So we decided to park in the QFC parking lot not too far from the sushi restaurant.
As we approached some empty parking spaces, we parked perfectly next to a mini-family van. I noticed a white SUV was waiting to park next to us. Since my friend saw the vehicle approaching next to us, she closed the car door to let the car in. As I got out of the driver’s side of my car to help assist my friend with her baby stroller in the back trunk, a Caucasian woman came out of the SUV. My friend opened the back car door to let herself out along with her almost 6-month-old son. The Caucasian woman took one long stare at us and asked my friend, “Were you born here?” The back seat door was in her way when she asked that question with my friend not being aware of her presence. Then the woman asked my friend in a very rude, bitter, and disrespectful tone to move the car door. My friend and I exchanged looks of “Huh, what is her problem?”
My friend got her 6-month-old son onto the baby stroller and we proceeded on our way to the sushi restaurant. We briefly chatted about the woman’s disrespectful manners towards us in the parking lot. Since my friend and I are both of Asian oriental background, the woman had no right to ask us if we were born here. I immediately thought she was racist towards us because the woman felt like we did not have any manners towards her in the parking lot. She could have asked my friend nicely to move the car door or in a nice manner, “excuse me?”
I have worked in some customer service jobs in the past which required me to deal with different types of people’s personalities. Believe me there are a lot of rude people I have come into contact with at my previous jobs or life in general. It is quite sad that this Caucasian woman had no respect for both of us. She treated us like we were of lower class then her. I would imagine that if this lady was in a very different cultural environment non-Caucasian, how would she feel being disrespected by someone who was not from here? There are many parts of the country today that people are experiencing racism. We must learn how to treat one another with respect and manners regardless if we are all different. I have worked with all types of individuals that came from different countries and they are great people. I’ve learned that many people have different views and aspects on things, but we should learn to respect others as well. I just hope that the woman that we had encountered in the parking lot will learn her lesson of her actions towards us.