I wonder why people have meaningless sex… is it to make you feel better about yourself, is it because that is what you think you should do after you get drunk, is it because you are lonely, is it to prove that you can get some whenever you want it, is it because you NEED some, is it because you never got enough love from your parents so you feel like this empty sex will satisfy that, or is it because you cannot commit or just got out of a relationship?  I obviously am not a one-night stand type of girl, and I never really understood it.  I personally can only be with someone with whom I care about.

My friends fiancé has slept with over 100 girls (he used to be in the Army) before he met her and finally decided to settle down with her.  He used to get drunk every single night and purposely go out and find a new girl to sleep with, it was like a game to him.  His friends would point out a girl, and he would suavely talk to her and eventually she would be “begging him” to take her home.  His guy friends would actually make bets on which girl he could get to go home with him.   In this case, is it all about the game, the fun of which new girl can you get to go home with you?

My friend had only slept with 20 guys before him (I say only, compared to his 100 girls).  All of her 20 guys were guys that she had dated throughout her whole dating life (minus one)… guys that actually meant something to her.  She, like me, has a hard time with one night stands, and although she had a one night stand once and was actually able to go through with it, she felt crappy right after, so she left and went home.  I on the other hand, have tried to have a one night stand, but before it got too far, I just could not go through with it.

My friend’s fiancé though, is mad at my friend because he thinks it is worse that she has slept with 20 (19) guys that meant something to her, because they meant something to her.  He thinks its okay that he slept with over 100 girls because they had no meaning… This is where guys and girls vary.  This is when emotions become attached.  Why is it okay to sleep with that many people, but your partner slept with 1/5 of what you did and its not okay… emotions or not… And all that should matter to him know is that she wants to spend the rest of her life with him.

I just do not get it.  Another friend of mine just told me he had a one night stand.  He is over in another country, not with the military, but as a civilian working for the military.  He finally got laid after 6 months of nothing, but dreaming about it.  Although he said he refused to have sex unless it meant something to him, he finally broke down and gave in.  He told me that afterwords he almost regretted it because it was meaningless to him and that he will not do it again (at least not with this chick).

I just don’t get it…. Someone fill me in.  How is meaningless sex satisfying?